For the first time in my short life, I am actually faced with it. Luckily for moi I am not actually part of the situation, but none the less it did fancy my interest.
So, let's discuss the urban meaning of the term "girl code" (GC). As I understand it's basically an unwritten rule that states you cannot ever have dirty thoughts about a friend's personal eye-candy. If I am mistaken, please, correct me. If one ought to be daft enough to break the GC, doesn't that unlucky person end up in one of the nine circles of Hell with all the traitors? Well, I'm not sure if they should, but it would make this unwritten code more interesting and, let's face it, bad-ass.
Why am I even rambling about it if I am not involved? Well, a very good mate of mine was duped and it made me analyze the term and why my generation has it. I guess the GC has been around for some time, but it is also something people constantly break. Is it then a rule we all follow or is it just something we use to bitch about?
Let's take an awesome movie "Girlfight" as a reference. In the beginning of the flick, our main character defends a friend from a stuck up chica who has deliberately "hooked up" with the said friend's eye-candy. She also made a rude comment towards the chubby bunny, but that's a whole other issue. The point was about the GC. Is it then a movie term we have picked up? I am confused as why it is a thing that needs to exist. I think it's rather logical that you don't touch your bff's ex, dream-man or in my case also brother. Eww! And the same of course applies to our sister's ex, etc.
Why then do some of us need to be reminded or pointed out that what they are planning to do or are doing is wrong? I have heard and personally witnessed the fact that Estonian schools don't teach our kids logical thinking. We could write some of the guilt over to that. Also, it used to be a biological thing that females don't possess logical thinking. Does our lack for logic then trump the bond we share with our friends?
Is there an excuse that makes it alright do break someone's heart that way? Is alcohol that excuse? I'm only asking this because it might have been a factor as it did happen during a party. Nevertheless, I am appalled it occurred.
The last part of this rhetorical question filled blog is: How can one mend what they have broken? I suppose admitting to the problem/fault could and should be the right place to start. But what if the culprit isn't aware of her mistake? How long will that duped mate have to wait until her friend, who she sometimes seems to be connected to in a way I share with maybe one person, realizes her fault. Or should the duped friend just confront the person and take care of the matter.
There is so much I don't understand about the GC, since I personally have not broken it. Don't plan to try it out, as I've seen the damage it does on a person. Give me your examples and maybe some advice for my duped mate.
Best of luck on all your endeavors, I'll see you soon enough.
Regina
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